This article is not about falling in love again after recovering from a failed relationship. This is about falling in love again with the same person over and over again…
Men or women, we have a genuine need to love and be loved. As mentioned in my post “Saying “I Love You”“, we have a love tank inside us that needs to be filled. When we are unable to get this need met by our spouse/life partner, we may get disillusions and become confused about our feelings. I read this somewhere… “At a wrong time with a wrong person in a wrong place, wrong things happen.”
Most, if not all, of the divorcees I spoke with, did not marry with the intention to divorce. Most who are in wrongful relationships out of marriage/relationship, did not plan for that to happen. It is our responsibility to ensure our love tank is filled and do our best to fill our spouse’s/life partner’s love tank. How then, do we keep falling in love with the same person?
How to keep falling in love again?
Communication is THE key in all relationships ~ No matter how much a soul mate our spouse/partner is to us, they can’t know our thoughts and feelings all the time. I always ask troubled couples who came to me, “Did you tell him/her how you feel?” Very often, the response I get is, “He/She should know.” I cannot say I understand myself fully, neither have I meet anyone who does. It is unreasonable to expect or demand our spouse/life partner to know and understand how we feel all the time. When they fail to understand us, it does not mean they love us any lesser. We need to express our feelings, communicate our thoughts to our spouse/life partner, in order for 2 different individuals to grow closer and share a more intimate relationship.
Appreciate each other ~ There are no perfect lover. The same applies to ourselves, and our spouse/life partner. Understanding that everyone has their strengths and flaws, embracing them with our love, makes it possible for 2 different individuals to love and live together. The journey together would be more fun and interesting, if we focus on the strengths of our spouse/partner instead of their flaws. Learn to appreciate each other, be thankful for the big and small things they do for us, do not allow familiarity to breed contempt and take each other for granted.
Remember the good times ~ Every couple shares good and bad times. Every relationship has highs and lows. Remember the good times and keep doing what works for both of you. Have some hot dates with each other, bathe together in the tub, cuddle up in each other arms, etc.
Resolved to Keep Falling In Love Again ~ With Each Other
Remember, the magic need not die over time. Keep the passion burning.
If this article has bless you in any ways, share it with your partner. When both of you are resolved to keep falling in love again with each other, there is no obstacles too big for both of you.
A Note from ~Love Gururu~
If you would like to share your story or get some personal tips on how to keep falling in love again, email ~love gururu~ and she will do what she can for you.